1. The One Thing You Cannot Ask Your Child’s Therapist To Do

    As an adoption-competent therapist, there are a number of areas in which I can offer support to your child. If they have separation anxiety, I can help them feel secure in knowing their loved ones will do everything in their power to return. If they worry about being hurt by caregivers, I can help them work through the impact of negative experiences to feel safe in the present. If they struggle wi…Read More

  2. A common (& avoidable) mistake transracially adoptive parents make…

    Have you ever said something like this to your transracially adoptive children after learning that they were teased or judged because of their appearance? "Your differences are what make you special!" "I love that your skin/hair is different, it's so beautiful!" "It's okay to be different!" "They just don't understand anyone who's different, that's why they were being mean." You mean well. You …Read More

  3. #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees

    Did you miss out on February's #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees? Review them all here! #1: Journal about your adoption process before you even receive a referral, so that your child can see how loved and wanted they were by you before they even became a part of the family. #2: If you adopt internationally, take as many pictures and videos of your child’s orphanage, orphanage workers, and communi…Read More

  4. Repost of Dear People Who Do Not Have a Child with Disabilities

    A wonderfully and honestly written blog that all should take to heart - consider your words carefully when speaking to a parent of a child with special needs. Link to Adrienne Jones' blog on "No Points for Style" - a must read! http://www.nopointsforstyle.com/2013/08/dear-people-who-do-not-have-a-child-with-disabilities.html…Read More

  5. Why Do Kids Lie?

    You know your teenager came home after curfew, your daughter spilled nail polish on the carpet, and your son ate cookies before dinner – so why do they lie about it? Learn about the developmental reasons kids lie below, and explore ways that you can help your child to be more honest. 2-3 Years Old Children at this age typically do not lie intentionally, but struggle to distinguish reality from t…Read More

  6. A Lesson in Self-Care from Our Children

    As we move into mid-summer and kids are home throughout the day, you might notice that your stress level rises, but your child's stress level seems to remain pretty stable. What do kids know that we don't when it comes to de-stressing? As adults, we worry about paying bills, our children, our pets, aging parents, work, losing weight, cleaning the house – and the list goes on. And yet, do you rec…Read More

  7. Tips for Parenting Trauma-Reactive Kids

    While I could write for days on the topic of trauma in adoption and foster care kiddos, I’m writing this blog with the assumption that many parents already understand quite a bit about the basics of it. After all, adoptive parents receive a lot of training about “trauma.” You learn about brain development, definitions of trauma, how it impacts your kiddo and how to be aware of signs that sug…Read More

  8. End Power Struggles by Giving Your Kid FLAC

    Those two dreaded words every parent hates to hear: power struggle. They are inevitable and exhausting and beyond frustrating. But there is hope! By understanding the dynamics of a power struggle with your child, you will have the upper hand in moving past them. One effective method for managing power struggles with most children is the FLAC method developed by Michael Popkin, PhD & Elizabeth …Read More

  9. Why Giving Your Child Choices Helps with Discipline

    It may sound contradictory: In order to get your child to follow through on your specific directions, you offer options for them to choose from. In some ways, yes, it gives your child more control over the situation. However, who decided that giving your child some control is a bad thing? While it’s true that you are in charge as the parent, being in charge does not mean controlling everything a…Read More

  10. Understanding How to Use Natural Consequences vs. Logical Consequences vs. Punishment

    There are thousands of parenting books out there, and sometimes it seems like they each coin their own terms just for the sake of being unique and trendy. But do they actually mean anything different from one another? Here is a clear explanation of three common terms associated with discipline: Natural Consequences – Just as the term says, these are consequences that occur naturally in a cause-e…Read More