1. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 3

    Only 10 minutes between sessions. I need to make a quick run to the restroom. As I walk to the sink, another therapist who works in the building walks in with a big smile. After a few seconds of the usual pleasantries, she asks, “Are you Indian?” Here we go… “Yes, I am.” “Oh, I just returned from a trip there! I visited...........” and on and on she goes, describing multiple cities, …Read More

  2. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 2

    As a child and teen, I intentionally avoided becoming friends with others who had brown skin. I didn’t want to be labeled as “one of them” – a foreigner, someone who speaks with an accent, someone who smells different, someone who wears strange clothing, someone who eats gross food. I just wanted to be White, because almost everyone around me was White. I just wanted to fit in and feel nor…Read More

  3. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 1

    All. My. Life. I’ve been a people-pleaser. The person who constantly considers context and intentions, who gives the benefit of the doubt, who hates to see anyone feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. Even when it’s at the expense of my own feelings and well-being. Maybe it’s because I know what it’s like to truly, genuinely, painfully hurt because of someone else’s words or actions. Maybe …Read More

  4. Screening Questions When Seeking an Adoption-Competent Therapist

    Adoption is beyond complex - the language, the losses, the expectations, the norms, the family dynamics, the feelings...the list is long, in-depth, and specific. When you're searching for an adoption-competent mental health professional for your child, you may assume that adoption is well understood within the mental health field, and that any licensed professional is able to provide your child w…Read More

  5. The “Rad Ric” Contest for kids is officially underway!!!!

    Rad Ric is an acronym to help you and your transracially adopted kids remember the most effective ways to respond to racism: R - Redirecting and channeling your anger into something positive and productive A - Avoiding confrontations that involve hurtful words or actions D - Defusing situations by staying calm and using gentle words R - Reporting the problem to a trusted adult if it continues or…Read More