1. #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees

    Did you miss out on February's #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees? Review them all here! #1: Journal about your adoption process before you even receive a referral, so that your child can see how loved and wanted they were by you before they even became a part of the family. #2: If you adopt internationally, take as many pictures and videos of your child’s orphanage, orphanage workers, and communi…Read More

  2. #MarchMiniLessonsOnRace

    Did you miss out on #MarchMiniLessonsOnRace? Read through all 31 days of lessons that were posted on Facebook here! Race Education – Day 1: Colorblindness is a myth. We all see skin color. Seeing skin color is not the problem - the biases we associate with certain skin colors are the problem. We all have biases, which develop from our upbringing, proximity and personal relationships (or lack the…Read More

  3. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 3

    Only 10 minutes between sessions. I need to make a quick run to the restroom. As I walk to the sink, another therapist who works in the building walks in with a big smile. After a few seconds of the usual pleasantries, she asks, “Are you Indian?” Here we go… “Yes, I am.” “Oh, I just returned from a trip there! I visited...........” and on and on she goes, describing multiple cities, …Read More

  4. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 2

    As a child and teen, I intentionally avoided becoming friends with others who had brown skin. I didn’t want to be labeled as “one of them” – a foreigner, someone who speaks with an accent, someone who smells different, someone who wears strange clothing, someone who eats gross food. I just wanted to be White, because almost everyone around me was White. I just wanted to fit in and feel nor…Read More

  5. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 1

    All. My. Life. I’ve been a people-pleaser. The person who constantly considers context and intentions, who gives the benefit of the doubt, who hates to see anyone feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. Even when it’s at the expense of my own feelings and well-being. Maybe it’s because I know what it’s like to truly, genuinely, painfully hurt because of someone else’s words or actions. Maybe …Read More

  6. Screening Questions When Seeking an Adoption-Competent Therapist

    Adoption is beyond complex - the language, the losses, the expectations, the norms, the family dynamics, the feelings...the list is long, in-depth, and specific. When you're searching for an adoption-competent mental health professional for your child, you may assume that adoption is well understood within the mental health field, and that any licensed professional is able to provide your child w…Read More

  7. A Challenge for Transracially Adoptive Parents

    I often hear from adoptive parents that they are trying their best to learn about how they can support their child's needs - through reading books, blogs, and articles, by attending workshops and culture camps – they’re really trying. Yet all too often, when I ask who is writing, posting, or hosting these events, I hear, "Other adoptive parents." I once wrote a blog in which I asked the questi…Read More

  8. The Perfect Example of a Transracial Adoptive Parent Ally

    We talk a lot about what it means to be an "ally" when it comes to white privilege and transracial adoption. Many parents work hard to learn as much as possible about the experiences of people of color in their communities in order to pass this information along to their adoptive children (which is a great thing). Some parents try to use their children's experiences as transracial adoptees to teac…Read More

  9. 11 Reasons to Reconsider Adoption #flipthescript

      It’s National Adoption Month. Oftentimes, this is a month of celebrating adoption and encouraging individuals to consider adopting a child. It is a month when we see smiling family photos, touching videos of families meeting their child for the first time, and adoptive parent and adoption agency blogs describing the positive side of adoption. And don’t get me wrong. There can definitely…Read More

  10. A Valuable Child Psychologist

    I am Dr. Chaitra Wirta and I am a licensed psychologist and the owner of Beyond Words Psychological Services. I completely understand that finding the “right” psychologist can be a daunting task. My company and I invite you to explore my website and decide whether it feels like a good fit for your needs. I am a very valuable child psychologist in this neck of the woods!…Read More