1. A common (& avoidable) mistake transracially adoptive parents make…

    Have you ever said something like this to your transracially adoptive children after learning that they were teased or judged because of their appearance? "Your differences are what make you special!" "I love that your skin/hair is different, it's so beautiful!" "It's okay to be different!" "They just don't understand anyone who's different, that's why they were being mean." You mean well. You …Read More

  2. 30 Days of Adoptee Resources for National Adoption Month 2016

    For 2016’s National Adoption Awareness Month, check out 30 Days of Adoptee Resources – by adoptees, for adoptees & their families! If you missed out on the daily emails, here’s a comprehensive list of the resources shared through Beyond Words Psychological Services! Adopted – Documentary - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cYI686su6PY Trauma to Treasure: A Healing Journey – Blog - http…Read More

  3. A New Tradition: 25 Days of Giving

    I have decided that beginning Thanksgiving Day of 2016, I am going to start a new tradition – 25 Days of Giving. On Thanksgiving, and for 24 days following, I am going to take 5 minutes out of each day to donate money to one cause that I believe is working to make our world a safer and more compassionate place. I have chosen to donate to organizations both local and global, those that are large-…Read More

  4. #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees

    Did you miss out on February's #29Days29WaystoSupportAdoptees? Review them all here! #1: Journal about your adoption process before you even receive a referral, so that your child can see how loved and wanted they were by you before they even became a part of the family. #2: If you adopt internationally, take as many pictures and videos of your child’s orphanage, orphanage workers, and communi…Read More

  5. #MarchMiniLessonsOnRace

    Did you miss out on #MarchMiniLessonsOnRace? Read through all 31 days of lessons that were posted on Facebook here! Race Education – Day 1: Colorblindness is a myth. We all see skin color. Seeing skin color is not the problem - the biases we associate with certain skin colors are the problem. We all have biases, which develop from our upbringing, proximity and personal relationships (or lack the…Read More

  6. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 3

    Only 10 minutes between sessions. I need to make a quick run to the restroom. As I walk to the sink, another therapist who works in the building walks in with a big smile. After a few seconds of the usual pleasantries, she asks, “Are you Indian?” Here we go… “Yes, I am.” “Oh, I just returned from a trip there! I visited...........” and on and on she goes, describing multiple cities, …Read More

  7. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 2

    As a child and teen, I intentionally avoided becoming friends with others who had brown skin. I didn’t want to be labeled as “one of them” – a foreigner, someone who speaks with an accent, someone who smells different, someone who wears strange clothing, someone who eats gross food. I just wanted to be White, because almost everyone around me was White. I just wanted to fit in and feel nor…Read More

  8. THIS IS WHAT IT’S LIKE…Part 1

    All. My. Life. I’ve been a people-pleaser. The person who constantly considers context and intentions, who gives the benefit of the doubt, who hates to see anyone feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. Even when it’s at the expense of my own feelings and well-being. Maybe it’s because I know what it’s like to truly, genuinely, painfully hurt because of someone else’s words or actions. Maybe …Read More

  9. Screening Questions When Seeking an Adoption-Competent Therapist

    Adoption is beyond complex - the language, the losses, the expectations, the norms, the family dynamics, the feelings...the list is long, in-depth, and specific. When you're searching for an adoption-competent mental health professional for your child, you may assume that adoption is well understood within the mental health field, and that any licensed professional is able to provide your child w…Read More

  10. A Challenge for Transracially Adoptive Parents

    I often hear from adoptive parents that they are trying their best to learn about how they can support their child's needs - through reading books, blogs, and articles, by attending workshops and culture camps – they’re really trying. Yet all too often, when I ask who is writing, posting, or hosting these events, I hear, "Other adoptive parents." I once wrote a blog in which I asked the questi…Read More