1. Why “I’m Ready to Listen” is Not the Beginning of Your Allyship

    It’s inevitable. Every time there is a major headline involving the murder of an unarmed Black person at the hands of a law enforcement officer, I see the same pattern playing out with several family members, friends, or acquaintances. I’ll make a statement (in person or on social media) about the importance of understanding a particular aspect of racism, and I’ll receive pushback about the …Read More

  2. The Single Item that Made Me Understand Racism

    It was a Band-Aid. Well, not actually a Band-Aid – just the image of a Band-Aid. So small, yet so damaging. It changed my life – the entire way I had viewed racism shifted. It was no longer individual, overt interactions. It was about the million little ways I was taught that I don’t belong. My first class addressing multicultural issues was during my doctoral program. It was a six-day cours…Read More

  3. It’s Time to Expand the Definition of “Helpers”

    After tragic events such the two mass shootings in El Paso and Dayton this past weekend (and the numerous shootings prior), many parents are seeking the right words to reassure their children that they will be safe. It can feel impossible to find these words amidst our own intense emotions, but Mr. Fred Rogers’ wise advice about noticing the “helpers” has always seemed to instill a sense of …Read More

  4. What We Ask of You

    Understand that we do not ask you to hear our voices because we are grieving. We ask you to hear our voices because we are exhausted from grieving. Biologicals cannot fathom the experiences of adoptees – the depth of our losses, the ways these losses permeate every part of our being, every experience, every decision. Even we do not always comprehend how ingrained these losses are within us, but …Read More

  6. The Most Empowering Book I’ve Ever Read to My Child

    So, you know how most children’s books have that “happily-ever-after-suddenly-everyone-is-best-friends-even-though-the-entire-book-was-about-someone-treating-someone-else-like-crap” kind of vibe? I’ve never been a fan. Sure, I’m all for books with happy endings. But I don’t think happy endings have to mean everyone gets along. In fact, for kids of color and many other types of minoriti…Read More

  7. The Bedtime Narrative for Kids Who Struggle with Sleep Anxiety

    The Bedtime Narrative for Kids Who Struggle with Sleep Anxiety I’ve recently had a number of requests for support from parents who are struggling with their child’s sleep anxiety. It’s an all-too-familiar scenario: “They refuse to let me leave the room, I have to lie in bed with them until they finally fall asleep.” “They wake up constantly during the night and I have to be right next …Read More

  8. A Letter to My Adopted Child’s Teacher

    The beginning of the school year is here! How will you help your child's teacher understand the best ways to be sensitive to the needs of your adoptive child? Consider writing the teacher an email  that describes some of the general experiences of adoptees, as well as the specific strategies they can use to support your child. Feel free to copy and revise the example letter below: "Dear ___, I ho…Read More

  9. The Ultimate Adoption Resource List

    The Ultimate Adoption Resource List (UPDATED 7/10/19) - check out the all-ages list below for books, websites, blogs, podcasts, documentaries, educational videos & more! FOR MENTAL HEALTH PROFESSIONALS Adoption Therapy: Perspectives from Clients & Clinicians on Processing & Healing Post-Adoption Issues Laura Dennis RESEARCH & RESOURCES Donaldson Adoption Institute: https://www.ad…Read More

  10. 2nd Annual 25 Days of Giving

    It’s time for my 2nd Annual 25 Days of Giving. On Thanksgiving, and for 24 days following, I am going to take 5 minutes out of each day to donate money to one cause that I believe is working to make our world a safer and more compassionate place. I have chosen to donate to organizations both local and global, those that are large-scale and those that are close to my heart. I hope that you will j…Read More